||[Aug. 17th, 2007|12:57 am]
INFP Community v2: Lovers, Dreamers, and Me
1. Honestly, what makes up most of your self-worth today?
2. In the past, what did you have to possess (could be intangible or whatever) in order to feel worthy?
HONESTLY... my self worth relies a lot on my interaction with my partner. I know that's probably lame but I'm being honest. If he is really into me I feel good.
I also pride myself on being a really good mum.
In the past I haven't really felt worthy at many times in my life. Having the undevided attention of my partner was the only thing that made me feel remotely worthy of anything.
1. How my relations with people are going.
2. My writing
Reverse the two and that's me.
To me, my sense of self-worth is connected to doing good works and deeds that matter. Right now, I don't feel that I have much to reccomend me as a good person: I just don't think that I have done enough to make a difference in the lives of those I love. I've actually never felt very worthy. Oh well, I guess there has to be a few real losers in life to balance out the lucky ones who get it right. :-)
Oh well, I guess there has to be a few real losers in life to balance out the lucky ones who get it right.
I understand how you feel, I said something nearly identical to that yesterday.
1. Being able to accomplish goals I set out to do and being completely true to myself and realizing it. Being there for my little sister. Volunteering my time (as opposed to donating money to charities, where you dont know where the money actually goes...).
2. Doing what my mother and others wanted and expected me to do. Grades in school. Striving to be the best in the group rater than being my own best.
I think my sense of self-worth changes by the minute. It all depends on what I'm doing, what I've just accomplished (or not accomplished), what I'm thinking, how I'm feeling, etc...
1. Enjoying my work. Making a difference to kids lives (hopefully for the rest of their life) through my work. Seeing kids succeed, even if it's as simple as being allowed to play sport.
2. Having people like me. That's still important to me now, but I don't do the things that I used to do to "make" people like me. It's much easier for me to accept when someone doesn't like me and just move on these days.
2007-08-22 01:14 pm (UTC)
hmm, i've given this a lot of thought in the past as part of my cold "theory of everything". It was more of a "what do all humans want?" thing, but if i can try to put it into terms of self-worth - here we go:
My self-worth comes from my intelligence to predict, my power to effect, and my trust (or lack) in both of those attributes.
- Predict emotionally: If my emotions/feelings/concerns are never validated (ie: accepted, understood, or shared) by others, it suggests to me that my emotions/feelings/concerns are crazy and worthless. If you can't predict your own emotions then you won't trust your own judgement. If you can't trust your own judgement, that's a terrible place to be.
- Predict physically: Pursuit of education/understanding/insight of the physical world around me, or mastery of physical skills. If someone throws a ball in the air - i should be able to predict where it will fly so i can catch it. This is a big part of what "play" actually is, in kids and adults.
- Effect: If nothing i did mattered, that'd suck. When playing, young boys destructively test a lot of their environment.
So if my selfworth is a measure of all of that, i think it's pretty low atm.
There, that's all-encompassing enough to answer both your first and second question :P
(bleh, it's late i'm sorry i didn't explain it too well)
It's almost always in terms of negative things. Things take away from it, but nothing really gives to it -- it'll just naturally go back up to on "okay" or "good" rate.
1. Being able to do things I don't regret. Having the heart, mind, and soul to do so.
2. Justice. (Basically, I didn't.)